KDMiller, Author at Ardent Path

Fundamental Forward Shift: The Key to Sustainable Growth

What does a fundamental forward shift and learning to swim have in common?

When I was a kid, my parents put me into swimming lessons. I don’t remember how old I was, but I remember not wanting to go. Up to that moment, I’d been content with life in the shallow end.

But staying there wasn’t an option.

The first day of lessons, kids eager to launch themselves from the side of the pool surrounded me. Meanwhile, I stood shivering and waiting for the lesson to be over. I knew that eventually, maybe not this day, but soon, I’d have to go into the deep end.

Along the edge of the pool, the other kids giggled and squirmed. I wasn’t having any of it and backed further away. One instructor waved, encouraging me to move closer. From the viewing gallery, I sensed the Wise One’s eyes on me. (He’s my inspiration for “the look” that I cultivated so well it still stops misbehaving children mid-tantrum.)

I inched forward.

One-by-one, we jumped into the pool. This was the easy part. I’d done it hundreds of times before, and loved it — in the safety of the shallow end.

But when the instructors announced that to pass the class we’d have to jump from the diving board, a detail of which my parents failed to mention, panic shot through me like a ball racing around a pinball machine.

One added, “Your toes have to dangle at the end of the board.” The other gave us a visual. One hand plopped over the other, fingers fluttering. I hated these people.

Surely they were joking. Why would our toes need to be in that specific spot?

The day finally arrived. We marched dutifully to the deep end of the pool, each awaiting our fate. Some exuberant, others, mainly me, not so much.

Splash! Plop!

“Can I do it again?” Over and over, until …

It was my turn to step onto the board, my sloth skills in full effect.

“A little bit more. Get your toes over the edge.”

One tiny step forward.

“More. You’re almost there.”

The scratchy bumps of the board scraped along the bottoms of my feet.

“Jump!”

“No.”

“You can do it. We’re right here. Jump!”

“No.”

Actions or thoughts that propel us forward or yank us backward require consistency. It’s the key. The only question is if we’re willing to break the connection between our consistent negative actions or thoughts, in favor of positive, more healthful ones.

Think how consistent our behaviors and thoughts are when we’re stopping ourselves from moving toward the thing we say we want. That level of consistency, applied in a more beneficial, perhaps more challenging, direction, is a fundamental forward shift.

A fundamental forward shift is understanding that we get what we want through small, positively skewed, consistent actions and thoughts. It doesn’t matter if those actions are successes or failures, but how we think about those failures matters tremendously.

Like a lot of things in life, failure ain’t all bad. This reminds me of something Captain Jack Sparrow said in Pirates of the Caribbean.

The problem isn’t the problem. The problem is your attitude about the problem.

Few people would say, “I love failing!” Most times, failure sucks. It’s mentally and physically draining. Sometimes it’s embarrassing, like when you mean to dive gracefully into a pool, but bellyflop instead. Other times, no one sees our failure, but we feel like we’re drowning in it.

Consider this: without failure, we wouldn’t know how great success feels. In fact, we wouldn’t be able to define success. Failure builds resiliency. We learn and grow through our mistakes. When we navigate a failure, we feel better about ourselves and we learn what to avoid or change the next time. It teaches us we have the stuff it takes to succeed. We also figure out how to manage the negative emotions that bubble to the surface when we fail.

All that’s great, but the best thing about failure is that we don’t have to experience it to learn from it. When we see other people fail, we learn the obvious “don’t do what they did,” and we gain empathy. Seeing other people fail also confirms we’re not the only ones who struggle. For some, it might temporarily increase their sense of self-worth as they compare themselves to the person who failed.

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There I was, toes dangling, dare I say fluttering, ever so slightly off the end of the diving board, and wanting desperately to be anywhere else but on the precipice of … okay, I’m being dramatic.

The point is, I wanted off that board and the only way off was into the water. I had to trust the instructors, but more importantly, I had to trust and believe in myself.

Through consistent effort (and an attitude adjustment care of The Wise One), I’d developed the fundamental skills that would move me forward. Had I attended the lessons, but refused to practice, that consistent, but negative behavior would have held me back.

The key is consistency, so why not choose the route that benefits us most? Why not choose positively skewed actions and thoughts?

Because we’re scared.

It’s okay to be afraid. Change is exciting, often overwhelming, and filled with uncertainty. But we’ve all heard it before. Uncertainty is where the action is. If we want different anything, then we have to embrace uncertainty.

DId I jump into the pool? Yes, and I did it again and again. Each time with less hesitation and uncertainty about the outcome. Experience does that, but consistency in thoughts and actions, positively skewed, made me keep climbing the ladder.

Here are 5 questions to help you with your fundamental forward shift.

What contributes to your fear of failing or succeeding?
What have you already learned about failure and success?
How can you reframe your thoughts about failure and success?
How would you describe failure? Is your description negatively skewed? Reframe it.
What was your last success (big or small)? Describe it. How does remembering it make you feel?

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Who’s in your corner?

by KDMiller | Personal Development

When you think about the things you’ve accomplished in your life, how did you do it? Who were the people who helped you?

Nothing is accomplished by a lone individual. Someone somewhere helped pave the way, or even more directly, gave you their time or access to resources.

For example, several years ago I made the decision to fulfill a lifelong goal. I’d studied martial arts off and on since I was 17-years-old, but hadn’t stayed anywhere long enough to get higher than the rank of brown belt.

When we relocated to our current home, I found a dojang that taught Hapkido. I fell in love with this art. Training was fun! My instructor and many senior students worked with me to prepare for each testing.

They weren’t the only ones, though. My husband practiced locks and other drills with me hours before I’d leave for each testing. If he couldn’t do it, which wasn’t often, our son would help me.

Grappling was part of our training, and I had no experience doing it. Other instructors broke it down for me, and I started to understand what to do, and when to do it.

I began to flourish under the guidance of my instructors and senior students. It was a fabulous experience filled with challenge and growth, but not just physically.

When I wanted to quit due to an injury, my instructor encouraged and pushed me not to give up. I was one rank away from my goal.

But, that injury was at the hands of the head instructor of the school. I was angry and frustrated. Why had he intentionally hurt me?

Every student who witnessed it, including my instructor, knew two things about me that day. First, I could take a serious hit, and second, I was going to walk out and never come back.

The anger I felt had to be overcome if I was going to reach the next level. If my instructor hadn’t been there to talk me out of it, I would have quit. And I would have regretted it.

I spent the next few months recovering and preparing for the next test. The week of black belt testing, I decided to get in a little more training in a different class. The instructor of that class paired us off and told us to practice techniques.

My partner, who wasn’t an Hapkidoist, asked me to throw a kick. He caught it, ripped my leg forward, and pulled it a bit out of its socket. I fell to the mat. He thought it was funny. When I was finally able to get up, I didn’t retaliate.

In the back of my mind, I heard my instructor telling me “don’t quit.”

When it was my turn, I explained what I was about to do. I had a cane — my weapon of choice. If I hadn’t explained the technique and what to expect, he would have had a broken arm or dislocated shoulder. Either way, lots of pain.

My instructor’s patience, encouragement, and understanding helped me reach first dan. He also prepared me to move on knowing that I couldn’t stay in that dojang. The anger I felt still was below the surface. Any trust I had for the head instructor and some of his students was gone.

That’s what touchstones do.

How familiar are you with “touchstones?” The first time I recall hearing the term I was reading a Marcia Muller novel more than twenty years ago. I recall thinking, “I like that idea.”

The idea wasn’t new, but the way it was used resonated with me. I’m fortunate to have family, friends, and instructors who filled this role then, and now.

No one can exist in a vacuum and flourish. We need other people.

Perhaps the most tragic examples that illustrate this are the more than 153 million children worldwide living in orphanages. Institutional life isn’t compatible with forming strong attachments with a primary caregiver.

Researcher Nathan Fox found that young children in institutionalized settings have reduced grey and white matter in their brains. His Child Development Lab at the University of Maryland has ongoing studies with children in Romanian orphanages.

Neglect is positively correlated “with significant cognitive delays, increased risk for psychological disorders, and stunted physical growth.” Early interventions can reverse some and possibly all of these negative effects.

We need people. Not just any people, but supportive, life-affirming people.

This might seem obvious, but I’ve met hundreds of people throughout the United States who know this but don’t take steps to ensure it for themselves.

My father used to say, “If someone is an albatross around your neck, kick’em to the curb.” (That’s a bit of mixed imagery, but you get the point.)

When you think of a “touchstone,” it’s usually a person with whom you can share your deepest desires, hopes, fears, frustrations, and dreams. This is your “go-to” cheerleader/accountability partner.

It’s Buffy and Angel, Laverne and Shirley, Fonzie and Richie — wait, let me give a few contemporary examples. How about Bella and Edward, Patrick and Spongebob, or Aphmau and Aaron?

Who are your touchstones?

If you don’t have these kinds of people in your life right now, what can you do?

I’m borrowing this approach from all those dating websites. They always ask what kind of person you’re searching for in a mate. Well, this isn’t any different.

Start identifying the traits you’d like for the people you want in your life. You can do this through journaling. Yes, you want the person to be supportive and encouraging, but what else? How would you like them to do this? How do you want them to give you feedback?

We all know that what we focus on gets our attention. Finding your tribe and touchstone takes effort, time, and attention.

It also takes courage to move away from your core group when you realize they’re a weight not worth lifting. Leaving my dojang and all the people I enjoyed training with was a difficult decision, but it was the right one.

I ran into my former instructor from that school not so long ago. He gave me an interesting update that he believed might open the door for my return. We’ll see.

Touchstones are your inner circle. They look after you, mentally and sometimes physically. They challenge and uplift you. In colloquial terms, “They’ve got your back.”

Who’s got your back?

Humor helps us live longer. Here’s how!

by KDMiller | Happiness and Well-being

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What's so funny? — Image Credit: Quinn the Islander via Pixabay

Humor, or more specifically, laughter is contagious. Have you ever gotten a case of the giggles, that you couldn’t stop? How many other people around you started laughing, too? Did they know what you found so amusing?

The endorphin hit we get from laughing, helps us relax and the laughter can signal safety. So, we’re attracted to people who are laughing.

What is humor?

Definitions of humor vary by culture, but one thing is true, we all laugh. Even babies do it, and we don’t usually know why.

Was it useful from an evolutionary perspective? It must have been otherwise why did it stick around? Why isn’t everyone walking around scowling?

Humor relieves tension and stress, so maybe that’s why the trait stayed with us. It also bonds people together. That would have been useful back in the day.

Humor helps us in many ways. The Mayo Clinic lists several benefits. Among them are,

Activate and relieve your stress response
Sooth tension
Improve your immune system
Relieve pain
Improve your mood

Regardless of the reason, humor is a trait we all have. We don’t express it the same way, or with the same comedic timing of, Robin Williams, but we all use it.

Before we go much further, let’s get on the same page with a few definitions and research about humor.

Humor is:

the quality of being amusing or comic, especially as expressed in literature or speech.

It’s important to make a distinction between humor and laughter. Humor is an evoked response to storytelling and shifting expectations. Laughter is a social signal among humans. It’s like a punctuation mark. — Carl Marci, MD

To understand humor, it’s also good to distinguish between a sense of humor and a style of humor. The former involves our ability to understand, laugh at, and appreciate jokes. The latter is our approach to using humor.

Dr. Rod A. Martin created the Humor Styles Questionnaire to study how people use humor. His work isn’t about the jokes themselves. It’s about the adaptive or maladaptive use of humor in everyday life. He and his colleagues identified four styles of humor. As you read each, a few examples will likely pop into your head right away.

They are:

Self-enhancing humor helps us feel good. If you’re able to cheer yourself up or poke fun at yourself in a good way, then this is you. You find humor in everyday life.
Affiliative humor helps us build relationships with others. We banter back and forth. It’s all good, clean fun. It’s witty.
Aggressive humor makes us feel good but at the expense of others. These are the jibes, snarky remarks, and hurtful teasing we do to put someone down.
Self-defeating humor helps us build relationships with others, but at the expense of ourselves. We’re the butt of every joke.

Martin notes that we usually have a combination of the styles, but lean more toward one than the others. Take the quiz and discover your style.

Sarcastic humor — Is it all bad?

How do you feel about sarcasm? If you’re like most people, you think it’s okay, but believe there’s a line you shouldn’t cross — unless it’s with a sibling. They’re fair game.

Sarcasm comes from the Greek word sarkazein, which meant “to tear flesh like a dog.” This word led to the Greek noun sarkasmos, meaning “a sneering or hurtful remark.” Sarkasmos made its way through French and Latin first. Then showed up in English around the mid-16th century.

Today sarcasm means,

a sharp and often satirical or ironic utterance designed to cut or give pain.

the use of irony to mock or convey contempt

We use it so often, and have for so long, that to not appreciate it could be a sign that your brain isn’t working quite right. Researchers have studied sarcasm for more than 20 years. They’ve discovered a few interesting side effects of using sarcasm.

For instance, our brains work harder to understand and breakdown sarcastic comments. It requires us to think about how someone is saying something (tone), and that the meaning isn’t literal. This last part involves the theory of mind (ToM).

Here’s an interesting tip the next time you encounter a customer service representative. Sarcastic complaints work better with customer service agents than anger. It helps the agent get more creative when solving problems.

Francesca Gino and her research partners found a connection between sarcasm and creativity. The right amount, with the right tone, in the right situation can increase creativity.

That’s a lot to get right, though. And they do acknowledge that trust is a big factor in those situations.

Keeping all that in mind, step lightly when using your sarcasm. We all know that in emails it doesn’t work. It’s also not a good idea in close relationships.

The Gottman Institute is a leader in the study of what makes marriages and couplehood work. Dr. John Gottman, a founding partner, is well known for his ability to predict divorce with 90% accuracy. He discovered that six behaviors predict divorce. Of the six, the Four Horsemen are the most lethal. They are,

Criticism
Contempt
Defensiveness
Stonewalling

Contempt is the most destructive because it involves defensive joking, aggressive/hostile humor (sarcasm), and mockery. You can stop this behavior from destroying your marriage or partnership. They explain how in, This one thing is the biggest predictor of divorce.

Is sarcasm all bad? No, not if it’s used a little to spice things up. Used too often though, and it erodes relationships. And, since we tend to use sarcasm with the people we’re closest to, it’s better to be safe than sorry.

Cultural differences

Humor is difficult to translate. It takes into account the subtleties of a culture, that if you aren’t aware of, can mystify you. Oh, and cause you to miss the joke.

For example, British and American humor differ.

Dr. Tom Verghese shares a great example. Watch as he explains effective use of humor during a presentation.

Understanding cultural nuances is important in all communication, but especially humor.

Our Brain on Humor

When we hear a joke, the frontal lobe starts to search for patterns. Between the start of a joke and the punchline, our expectations get tossed around like a sack of laundry. Incongruity piques our curious prefrontal cortex located in the frontal lobe. This center for information processing devotes more attention to the story (joke). Then it starts to expect that the speaker meant something else. A data check happens between the prefrontal cortex and the nucleus accumbens. If everything checks out, this triggers an emotional response.

When we laugh, dopamine, serotonin, and endorphins all release. Dopamine helps us process our emotions and experience pleasure. Sounds awesome, right? It gets better. Serotonin gives us a mood boost. Endorphins take care of pain and stress, and when we’re laughing we feel euphoric.

What are you waiting for? Get yourself a hit of happy brain chemicals!

Michael Jr. I was just jogging

The Humor-Resilience Connection

Everyone experiences hardships. For some people, humor is their go-to coping mechanism. For those for whom it’s not, consider developing this trait. Here’s why,

…high levels of coping humor are associated with more positive challenge appraisals for various life events. In turn, these positive appraisals can also generate greater enthusiasm and enjoyment for dealing with these events, and are thus strongly associated with more positive affect. — Nicholas A. Kuiper

He’s describing an upward spiral. How we respond to challenging events can influence our emotional and psychological outcomes. Viktor Frankl, Anne Frank, Nelson Mandela, and many others are great examples. They used humor to cope with horrible circumstances.

After the 9/11 attacks in NYC, humor is what helped me deal with the experience. I had no home and no clothes except what I wore the day it happened. Life as a consultant meant living in hotels for extended periods. Everything I had was in my hotel room, but I was in Brooklyn.

There wasn’t much to laugh about the day of the attack. There wasn’t even much to find amusing several days after. But, one night as I walked from a Walgreens back to the Saddle Down B&B, I chatted with my brother. He was “walking me home” via the phone. I joked about the noise of fighter jets passing overhead. I don’t recall now what I said, but it wasn’t the only time jokes saved conversations from tumbling into an abyss. And, kept me and others pushing forward.

The American Psychological Association (APA) created a resource to help people build resilience. 10 Ways to build resilience offers several strategies. Humor isn’t mentioned, but this is more a function of timing than a denouncement of humor as a strategy. Research in this area of positive psychology is on-going.

Interesting Research Tidbit

Researchers at Emory University School of Medicine discovered that stimulating a specific area of the brain causes immediate laughter. A sense of calm and happiness follows the laughter. The electrical stimulation targets the cingulum bundle. When done, the effect is a reduction in anxiety. The cingulum bundle is beneath the cortex. It curves around the midbrain and looks like a girdle.

Why is this important? Stimulating this brain region helps patients feel happy. This means it could be useful in the treatment of disorders like depression, anxiety, and chronic pain.

Want to know more? Check out the article published in Science Daily.

Curious about the actual surgery? Watch this video:

How to create a humor habit

Improv is a fun way to learn more about humor. It can positively affect our cognitive processes in several areas. For example,

divergent thinking
flexibility
language
memory
problem-solving
co-construction

You might have experienced some of this if you’ve been part of a high-functioning team.

But, it also can happen when strangers come together, hit it off, and bounce banter like a ping-pong ball.

Have you tried improv? If so, let me know in the comments. I’ve considered it, but have been a bit chicken. I bet I’m not alone. Why should those of us who’ve never done it, try it?

The Fountain of Youth

Having a good sense of humor increases your life expectancy. Norwegian researchers’ findings from a 15-year study show,

73% lower risk of death from heart disease for women
83% lower risk of death from infection for women
74% reduced risk of death from infection for men

* Culture can play a part in the development of humor. I don’t have data on the original study. If you do, please share it!

Genetics and socialization are two aspects of humor. This tells us that we can influence some aspect of our humor development. Improv anyone?

The Bottom Line

Life is a lot more enjoyable with humor, and it’s consequence — laughter. It gets us through the rough times and makes the happy times more enjoyable.

Want to learn more?

Harvard Mahoney Neuroscience Institute (2010, Spring). Humor, laughter and those ah-ha moments. On the Brain, 16(2), 1–3.

Thanks for reading! If you enjoyed this article be sure to check out some of my others.

Be sure to check out the challenges page if you’re looking for a new goal to achieve in the coming weeks or months.

Funny or not? Learn your humor style

by KDMiller | Happiness and Well-being

Being funny wasn’t a career choice growing up, it was my way out of situations; a way to survive another day.
Tracy Morgan

For the past few weeks I’ve been intrigued by humor. What makes us laugh? Why do we smile? Is it possible to gauge how funny a person is?

My research stopped for a week while I took a deep dive into another subject — positive aging. But one of the interesting connections between the two subjects is that positive aging includes being able to take yourself less seriously. It includes laughter alone and with others as part of a long life.

Laughter helps us get through the bad storms, protecting us from the worst of them.

Case in point about being funny

Yesterday I spent time selling cookies with my daughter’s girl scout troop. We had a prime location inside the entryway of a grocery store. An older man walked in and struck up a conversation with an employee. The entire time, the older man spoke in rhymes.

After a while, he started talking with our troop, again all in rhymes. He entered the store smiling, saw another person, and did the same thing. On his way out, he stopped to chat with us one more time.

Before leaving he mentioned a few comments about growing old, but all in jest because it’s really the best.

I don’t know if the man has always been funny or had a good sense of humor. He clearly uses humor to brighten other peoples’ day. From his perspective, if he can’t make someone else smile, he hasn’t done his job for the day. But, it obviously lifts him up, too.

As I drove home in the start of a blizzard, recalling how happy and funny he was made my drive a bit less stressful. See, that’s another thing humor does for us — ease tension and stress.

Cat Tiger GIF - Find & Share on GIPHY — Giphy.com

If you want to know what kind of sense of humor you have, check out Roni Jacobson’s article over on The Cut.

Being funny or having a sense of humor is a skill. You can learn to do it by taking an improv or acting class. Or, you can just start watching funny shows or comedians.

Remember to check the Challenges page. In the next few months, I’ll add one or two more for you to try!

Rediscover your ‘why’ and your personal mission

by KDMiller | Meaning and Purpose

A one-step deep-dive analysis to get you back on track

Do you feel like your life has gotten a bit off track? Here’s how to rediscover your ‘why’ and feel more satisfied every day.

For most of us, our ‘why’ acts as an internal compass. When we know and use it every day to guide our actions, then we feel happier. There’s a spring in our step, a smile on our face, and things seem to click.

The trend for the past several years, perhaps sparked by Simon Sinek’s Ted Talk, “How great leaders inspire action,” is to find our ‘why.’

But for those of us who aren’t young whippersnappers, it’s not about finding it; It’s about rediscovering it.

After getting caught up in our careers and starting families, sometimes our ‘why’ gets pushed into a corner, beneath a table, covered with a table cloth, and collects dust.

It’s not intentional. It just happens.

One day you wake up and realize that you don’t know why you’re still in a job you hate, or an industry that no longer aligns with your values.

What you do know is that it’s sucking the life out of you. You’re thinking about jumping ship, but your family counts on you. What are you supposed to do?

This is where rediscovering your ‘why’ is important.

How I rediscovered my ‘why’

There’s something about your late forties that causes you to stop and take stock. I’ve been doing that a lot the past few years. After deciding to close our tea business and pursue something new, I discovered that I was lost.

I couldn’t figure out my ‘why.’ It took a few years of solid work to recognize that it had been there all along. What I needed to do was rediscover my ‘why’ not find a new one! Here’s what I realized:

My mission is to positively influence others to achieve or exceed their goals one bite-size step at a time.
Kori D. Miller

This didn’t pop into my head overnight. It happened after doing a deep-dive into positive psychology that culminated in earning a graduate certificate from the University of Missouri-Columbia.

Fifteen hours of focused coursework and many more hours studying helped me rediscover my ‘why.’

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How you can rediscover your ‘why’

If you’re struggling with rediscovering your ‘why,’ you’ll find it by examing what you’ve done up to this point.

To get started, ask yourself these questions:

With whom did I spend my time growing up?
What did I learn from them that I still use today?
What did I love doing?
What was I most proud of as a kid?

These questions might seem trivial, but they’re not. If, for example, your answer to “What did I love doing?” is playing video games, then dig a little deeper. What about that activity did you love so much? What did playing games do for you that nothing else did?

If your answer is, “Sports. I loved playing sports.” What made you love it so much?

Maybe when you were growing up you spent time with a few unsavory types. Why? What drew you to them? What pushed you in another direction?

Your goal is to identify themes lurking inside your answers.

For me, I realized that some of my happiest moments came from helping and defending other people. When I taught people something new, or they reached a goal they didn’t believe possible, I felt AWESOME! I also loved using my writing skills to communicate useful information to others.

As I examined the various jobs I’ve done, my 10-year career in training & development, our tea business, and the relationships I’ve had, these themes surfaced again, and again.

So, what could I do in the next phase of my career path that would allow me to do those things now? This is what led me to start Ardent Path and to begin writing about positive psychology.

Your theme-focused mission

After you identify themes, start formulating your ‘why.’ Here are a few guidelines:

Write a few drafts.
Play with the wording.
Keep it to one sentence.

This will become your mission.

Now that you have your ‘why’ written as your personal mission it becomes easier to see where it fits or doesn’t fit into your current career.

For example, I couldn’t see myself doing training and development work in the tea industry. It didn’t even sound interesting to me. Writing about tea wasn’t going to help me fulfill my mission of helping people achieve their goals. After 13 years in the tea industry, I decided to close the business.

But, you don’t have to jump ship like I did.

What could you do in your current job or industry that would allow you to live your ‘why’ more fully? It might not require a job or career change. Maybe you need more or different responsibilities. If that’s the case, then schedule time to talk with your supervisor.

If making changes at your current job won’t work, then where can you express your ‘why’? Maybe you can fulfill your mission through volunteer work. Sometimes volunteering offers much more than the fulfillment of our personal mission. It also can lead to paid opportunities.

After you’ve cleaned the dust from your ‘why,’ and refashioned it into your mission, you’ll be surprised by how many places you can fulfill it.

Patience, contemplation time, and tenacity are all you need to rediscover your ‘why!’

What is tenacity?

Sky One via YouTube

The quality of being tenacious, or of holding fast; persistence; determination

It’s asking questions until you find the answers you need.

It’s getting up every day, setting goals for yourself, and hitting the ground running.

Tenacious people are resilient. They’ve got grit.

What are you going to tenaciously go after today?

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